sunlit_music: (Default)
http://www.kickbully.com/basic.html his website focuses on workplace bullying, but you can apply their advice to other bullying situations. This section provides the basics of alerting people to how you are being bullied. Also gives great tips on staying calm, polite and assertive. Don't be put off by the confrontational website's ironic address 'kickbully'. It's not advising people to be physically or emotionally violent. This thoughtful website encourage people to defuse bullying peacefully with grace.

http://www.kickbully.com/tools.html Note: the webpage title's 'Tools for fighting back' is referring to dealing with the bullying in a peaceful and assertive manner. It is not referring to using emotional abuse or aggression.

The topics in this section are: Clarifying what the bully is saying. Revealing their subtle attacks to others. The great benefits of paraphrasing the bully's words. Ignoring distractions and getting back on topic. Moving the meeting forward after someone has derailed the main topic/conversation. Ending and reducing monologues. Stop the bully from interrupting you or wandering off topic. Interrupting politely and assertively.  Using humour to defuse a tense situation. Maintaining your strength, grace and dignity. Declining outrageous and irrational orders from the bully. Acknowledge your mistakes without being steamrolled.

http://www.kickbully.com/useful.html Useful tips for specific bullying situations. How to respond to threats with dignity. Harassment - Handling harrassment assertively. Being assertive when a bully is aggressive. Ridicule (Pointing out the the bully's poor taste in ridiculing you). Drawing attention to the bully's aggressive body language. Rumor mongering (handling rumor spreading. Refusing to listen to or spread rumours).  
sunlit_music: (Default)
I'm sure nearly all of us want to strengthen and nurture our relationships. Humans are social to some extent. Nearly everyone wants to resolve arguments and understand people who are different from us. We've all been there. So I was really happy and excited to find great advice from this website.

This is not a magic pill. But I believe that it will drastically improve how you can problem solve relationship issues on work, relationships and parenting. The Keirnsey Temperament website looks at the different personality types (based on the Myers Briggs Personality Types). There are tests you can take to find out which one you belong to, what makes you tick. And best of all, how to understand and help others. Understanding each person is the key to showing care and respect, and working together as a team to solve challenges in work, school, or relationships. 

I was disturbed by how the site treats faults and abusive or neglectful behaviours of the types too lightly at times (understanding someone does not mean that you should let someone off when they're being vindictive, and obviously you shouldn't ignore someone being incompetent or cruel just because they're your boss). I am impressed by how it shows understanding and respect of the different personality types' strengths though.

Change your life and how you communicate with people here:

http://www.keirsey.com/personalityzone/wz14.asp (Click on the topics/articles on the right hand side of the web page). Topics of articles: Acing the Job Interviews. Dealing with work related stress. How to deal with people of different personality types acting out. Applying Jobs. When to leave a job. Finding the right career path for you. Taking new jobs in the city or country. How to avoid getting fired. Network to keep your job (how to network and socialise at work with different personality types).

http://www.keirsey.com/personalityzone/lz51.asp (Click on the topics/articles on the right hand side of the web page). Topics of articles: Personality types / temperaments and relationships. Dating. Marriage/long term relationships. Fair fighting. How to argue / debate fairly and respectfully with each type. How to communicate with and understand each of the types. Parenting together with personality types (making a great team). Separating from each type. Affairs/infidelity. How to show care, respect and love towards each type/temperament.

http://www.keirsey.com/personalityzone/cz1.asp Temperaments and school. Roommates. Your academic strengths. Sporting careers. College vs Technical Degree. Balancing work and school. Changing subjects/degrees. Failing Classes. Helicopter parents. Perfection trap. Professors. Internships. Professional organisations. Home for holidays. Double Majors/Degrees.

Profile

sunlit_music: (Default)
sunlit_music

January 2023

S M T W T F S
1234567
891011121314
15161718192021
22232425262728
293031    

Syndicate

RSS Atom

Most Popular Tags

Style Credit

Expand Cut Tags

No cut tags
Page generated Jul. 17th, 2025 09:15 pm
Powered by Dreamwidth Studios