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http://www.kickbully.com/basic.html his website focuses on workplace bullying, but you can apply their advice to other bullying situations. This section provides the basics of alerting people to how you are being bullied. Also gives great tips on staying calm, polite and assertive. Don't be put off by the confrontational website's ironic address 'kickbully'. It's not advising people to be physically or emotionally violent. This thoughtful website encourage people to defuse bullying peacefully with grace.

http://www.kickbully.com/tools.html Note: the webpage title's 'Tools for fighting back' is referring to dealing with the bullying in a peaceful and assertive manner. It is not referring to using emotional abuse or aggression.

The topics in this section are: Clarifying what the bully is saying. Revealing their subtle attacks to others. The great benefits of paraphrasing the bully's words. Ignoring distractions and getting back on topic. Moving the meeting forward after someone has derailed the main topic/conversation. Ending and reducing monologues. Stop the bully from interrupting you or wandering off topic. Interrupting politely and assertively.  Using humour to defuse a tense situation. Maintaining your strength, grace and dignity. Declining outrageous and irrational orders from the bully. Acknowledge your mistakes without being steamrolled.

http://www.kickbully.com/useful.html Useful tips for specific bullying situations. How to respond to threats with dignity. Harassment - Handling harrassment assertively. Being assertive when a bully is aggressive. Ridicule (Pointing out the the bully's poor taste in ridiculing you). Drawing attention to the bully's aggressive body language. Rumor mongering (handling rumor spreading. Refusing to listen to or spread rumours).  

http://www.pta.org/bullying.asp This website has factsheets on:

 How to Plan a Connect for Respect Event
How PTAs Can Host a Conversation on Bullying in Their Community (pdf)

What You Can Do As a PTA Leader
Three Ways PTA Leaders Can Prevent Bullying (pdf)

Best Practices in School-Based Bullying Prevention
Ways schools can fight bullying.

Best Practices in Community-Based Bullying Prevention
How community leaders can act on bullying prevention.
Bullying prevention efforts seem to work best if they are coordinated by a representative group from the school. This coordinating team (which might include an administrator, a teacher from each grade, a member of the non-teaching staff, a school counselor or other school-based mental health professional, a school nurse, and a parent
 Roll out an anonymous questionnaire/survey on bullying (when and where it happens in the school, what kind of bullying, whether there was adult supervision in those areas etc). The benefits of conducting a survey of students are:

• Findings can help motivate adults to take action against bullying;
• Data can help administrators and other educators tailor a bullying prevention strategy to the particular needs of the school; and
• Data can serve as a baseline from which administrators and other educators can measure their progress in reducing bullying.

All staff should be able to intervene effectively on the spot to stop bullying (i.e.., in the 1–2 minutes that one frequently has to deal with bullying). Designated staff should also hold sensitive follow-up meetings with children who are bullied and (separately) with children who bully. Staff should involve parents of affected students whenever possible.
Bullying prevention efforts seem to work best if they are coordinated by a representative group from the school. This coordinating team (which might include an administrator, a teacher from each grade, a member of the non-teaching staff, a school counselor or other school-based mental health professional, a school nurse, and a parent.
Bullying tends to thrive in locations where adults are not present or are not vigilant. Once school personnel have identified hot spots for bullying from the student questionnaires, look for creative ways to increase adults’ presence in these locations.
 

Trayce Shaw's helpful youtube videos to straight people and GLBTIQ people (on having GLBTIQ friends, coming out, dealing with bullying and homophobia):

http://www.youtube.com/user/TrayceShaw

The Tyra Banks show has many invaluable episodes on important issues people from all walks of life face (teen dating abuse (domestic violence), homophobia, advice from doctors, racism, harm caused by prostitution)
http://www.youtube.com/my_favorites?feature=mhw4

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fx3SrhmqOtQ

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=10fJ1h5xDaA

Anti Pornography blog: Youtube account with loads of videos. These onlione videos reveal the ugly truth about how pornography creates demand for prostitution and sex trafficking: http://www.youtube.com/user/AntiPornographyBlog

Here is an insightful article on bullying provided by night_axe at the lj community deathtocapslock:

http://www.abc.net.au/rn/perspective/stories/2006/1695363.htm

It's short, and a must-read.

The following text in italics is from the article and the text not in italics are my comments:

The article discusses how bullying is actually a form of abuse and how current strategies used for reducing bullying are actually inappropriate and distressing to bullying victims/survivors.

Some interventions currently established for dealing with bullying are inappropriate as they do not recognise that bullying is abuse.It also proposes this interesting solution to bullying:

Teachers should be considered responsible for both appropriate identification of the behaviours observed (as abusive or bullying) and for intervention under the provisions of the Children and Young Person's (Care and Protection Act),NSW 1998.

It is proposed that implementation of legislative requirements under this act ,for mandatory notification by teachers of all forms of abuse should be considered as a means of protective intervention in cases of bullying. This proposal also offers protection to teachers and schools from litigation in cases of serious per abuse.

The implementation of conflict resolution strategies for example, in dealing with child abuse would never be considered appropriate. We simply would never place an abused child in the same room as their abuser and try to mediate between them. Nor would we suggest that the abuse is in some way beneficial to the victim and 'character building'.

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