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http://www.kickbully.com/basic.html his website focuses on workplace bullying, but you can apply their advice to other bullying situations. This section provides the basics of alerting people to how you are being bullied. Also gives great tips on staying calm, polite and assertive. Don't be put off by the confrontational website's ironic address 'kickbully'. It's not advising people to be physically or emotionally violent. This thoughtful website encourage people to defuse bullying peacefully with grace.

http://www.kickbully.com/tools.html Note: the webpage title's 'Tools for fighting back' is referring to dealing with the bullying in a peaceful and assertive manner. It is not referring to using emotional abuse or aggression.

The topics in this section are: Clarifying what the bully is saying. Revealing their subtle attacks to others. The great benefits of paraphrasing the bully's words. Ignoring distractions and getting back on topic. Moving the meeting forward after someone has derailed the main topic/conversation. Ending and reducing monologues. Stop the bully from interrupting you or wandering off topic. Interrupting politely and assertively.  Using humour to defuse a tense situation. Maintaining your strength, grace and dignity. Declining outrageous and irrational orders from the bully. Acknowledge your mistakes without being steamrolled.

http://www.kickbully.com/useful.html Useful tips for specific bullying situations. How to respond to threats with dignity. Harassment - Handling harrassment assertively. Being assertive when a bully is aggressive. Ridicule (Pointing out the the bully's poor taste in ridiculing you). Drawing attention to the bully's aggressive body language. Rumor mongering (handling rumor spreading. Refusing to listen to or spread rumours).  
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 Excerpt from the fact sheet How PTA leaders can prevent bullying: "Before the meeting, work with your principal to conduct an anonymous student survey about the presence of bullying behavior at your school. Present these data at the beginning of the workshop to get everyone’s attention. Some of the findings can also be used in promotional materials. Invite community leaders, school decision makers, teachers, and students, and provide them with the opportunity to make brief comments about the ways they have, or plan to, address bullying in your community. After the meeting, follow up with a thank you to those who attended. Consider inviting members of the local media. If you are not satisfied with the response, after the meeting is over you can also write a letter to the editor of your local paper to let them know what happened and why it is important.

If possible, have a few members spend some time at the school observing the areas and times when bullying likely occurs, such as lunchtime in the cafeteria, in the halls between classes or near the buses at the beginning or end of the school day. Have them report back to this committee about what they noticed. If they are not able to become a permanent part of the committee, make sure that key personnel such as counselors, social workers, secretaries, nurses, janitors, librarians, media specialists or cafeteria workers and students are invited as special guests to your meetings.

 A group of students (from diverse backgrounds - different cultures, gay/lesbian/bisexual/transgender, foster children, children with disabilities, children from poorer backgrounds etc.) can help you design outreach materials and give you honest feedback on your approach. Be aware that this group might possibly consist of both bullying victims and perpetrators, and not all students that have been selected may feel comfortable participating. With the help of school personnel, invite each student through a separate one-on-one meeting where you discuss what their involvement would entail, and who else might be a part of the group. Give them the opportunity to decline the invitation, or find an alternative way to assist your efforts".

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http://www.pta.org/bullying.asp This website has factsheets on:

 How to Plan a Connect for Respect Event
How PTAs Can Host a Conversation on Bullying in Their Community (pdf)

What You Can Do As a PTA Leader
Three Ways PTA Leaders Can Prevent Bullying (pdf)

Best Practices in School-Based Bullying Prevention
Ways schools can fight bullying.

Best Practices in Community-Based Bullying Prevention
How community leaders can act on bullying prevention.
Bullying prevention efforts seem to work best if they are coordinated by a representative group from the school. This coordinating team (which might include an administrator, a teacher from each grade, a member of the non-teaching staff, a school counselor or other school-based mental health professional, a school nurse, and a parent
 Roll out an anonymous questionnaire/survey on bullying (when and where it happens in the school, what kind of bullying, whether there was adult supervision in those areas etc). The benefits of conducting a survey of students are:
  • Findings can help motivate adults to take action against bullying;
  • Data can help administrators and other educators tailor a bullying prevention strategy to the particular needs of the school; and
  • Data can serve as a baseline from which administrators and other educators can measure their progress in reducing bullying.
All staff should be able to intervene effectively on the spot to stop bullying (i.e.., in the 1–2 minutes that one frequently has to deal with bullying). Designated staff should also hold sensitive follow-up meetings with children who are bullied and (separately) with children who bully. Staff should involve parents of affected students whenever possible.
Bullying prevention efforts seem to work best if they are coordinated by a representative group from the school. This coordinating team (which might include an administrator, a teacher from each grade, a member of the non-teaching staff, a school counselor or other school-based mental health professional, a school nurse, and a parent.
Bullying tends to thrive in locations where adults are not present or are not vigilant. Once school personnel have identified hot spots for bullying from the student questionnaires, look for creative ways to increase adults’ presence in these locations.
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http://beastaralliance.org/resources The Be A Star Alliance is nation wide campaign working to prevent and fight bullying in the US. This site has a list of anti bullying websites and resources, and anti bullying organisations (including ones run by children, parents and teachers). The Stomp Out bullying has spreadsheets that do not provide much information on stopping or recognising bullies. However, they have a free and confidential chat line, which is valuable.

http://www.pta.org/2885.htm The National Parent Teacher Association (PTA) is the largest child advocacy volunteer organisation in North America.

This site has fantastic resources on:

- Learning how to form a strong, loving bond with your teenage children. This is crucial to spotting and combatting bullying.

- Discussing hate and violence with children. It also includes Spanish factsheets on TVsafety/onlinesafety/music/movies/cellphone (mobile phone) bullying.

- You can sign up to free wireless AMBER alerts in Spanish. This service helps you notify law enforcement quickly if your child has been kidnapped. It is free, and there's no fee for signing up. You can cancel/unsubscribe whenever you want.

How wireless Amber Alerts are sent: http://wirelessamberalerts.wirelessfoundation.org/howwirelessamberalertswork.htm

Frequently asked questions on Wireless Amber Alerts:


To report a missing, abducted or lost child in USA, please call your local law enforcement agency or National Center for Missing & Exploited Children at 1-800-THE-LOST.

http://www.thetrevorproject.org/survivalkit The Trevor Project has a survival kit, with 25 Youth brochures, 25 Wallet cards, 1 List of Books and Films for LGBTQ Youth,1 Educator Resource Guide, 1 copy of the Academy-Award winning film Trevor, and 5 Stickers with information for The Trevor Lifeline

The Trevor Project’s staff regularly provides technical assistance training on how to best use the Survival Kit through a one-hour teleconference and webinar training. If you are interested in participating in a free, quarterly webinar on how to best use your Survival Kit, please email Guide.

You can also find your local mental health/spiritual/accommodation/legal/community centres/under 13 /bisexual/transgender resources by using this site. Just type in your country, state, zip code. This site lists resources in America, Canada, Ireland and the United Kingdom: http://www.thetrevorproject.org/youth/local-resources

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http://karate-kids.com.au/teaching-children-martial-arts-exercise-as-punishment/ A must read on how exercise as punishment harms - whether you're old or young, physically fit or unfit.


A martial arts instructor muses on important things he's learnt while teaching kids. I have to admit, this put a smile on my face. :) It was heartwarming and just so true.

http://karate-kids.com.au/bullying-a-parents-guide-to-prevention/ Learn tips on busting bullying and how to protect your children. Everyone has a right to be safe, especially children, who are our most vulnerable members of society.

http://www.superparents.com.au/blog/2010/06/no-one-wants-to-be-a-victim/ How to avoid becoming a victim of crime.

http://www.superparents.com.au/blog/2010/06/keep-your-child-safe-online-3-parenting-tips/ Protect your child online with these valuable tips!

http://www.child-safety.com.au/2010/06/stranger-danger-taught-correctly.html Learn how to teach your children about stranger danger - the RIGHT way. Find out what your children can do when faced with this threat.

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Hello everyone,

Here's a website with links to other websites on how to deal with bullying (at a face to face and also wider level):


To eliminate bullying, we need to address it at ALL levels (face to face interactions to wider levels - in policies, laws). Which is why reading this site may help - it shows how people can mobilise and work together to get rid of bullying. This site also has information on how to deal with workplace and school bullying.

Bullying No Way is a superb Aussie resource on bullying. It has information on laws, policies, teaching materials on bullying. Read more here! http://www.bullyingnoway.com.au/

I strongly encourage peple to read Bully Blocking, by Evelyn Fields. This book is a fantastic resource on how to deal with bullies. It shows bullying survivors how to handle bullying, and shows teachers and parents how to fight it. It's also being sold in Australian stores. You can buy it on Amazon here:
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Trayce Shaw's helpful youtube videos to straight people and GLBTIQ people (on having GLBTIQ friends, coming out, dealing with bullying and homophobia):


The Tyra Banks show has many invaluable episodes on important issues people from all walks of life face (teen dating abuse (domestic violence), homophobia, advice from doctors, racism, harm caused by prostitution)



Anti Pornography blog: Youtube account with loads of videos. These onlione videos reveal the ugly truth about how pornography creates demand for prostitution and sex trafficking: http://www.youtube.com/user/AntiPornographyBlog
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From Men's Health Magazine:

Use websites that control who can see and comment on your personal info. Stay safe with these websites:

linkedin.com allows you control other people's access to your account to keep your privacy.

craigslist.com.au can give you an anonymous ID.

If you can't remove webpages that slander you, consider this:

claimed.com and naymz.com let you collect internet pages that have positive info on you pop up whenever someone types your name into a search engine. Both services are free.

http://au.reachout.com/find/articles/cyberbullying Cyberbullying is bullying on the Internet. Look here to find out how you can stop cyberbullying. Protect yourselves and your loved ones. The people affected by cyberbullying are real. And the consequences of online bullying can be devastating.


http://www.cybersmart.gov.au/  Use Cybersmart to keep your children safe. Everyone deserves to be safe while enjoying the Internet.

provides activities, resources and practical advice to help
young kids, kidsteens and parents safely enjoy the online world.

Cybersmart also offers training and resources for schools and materials for library staff.

And check this out! A dynamic and life changing Interactive anti bulling program:

http://www.projectrockit.com.au/ PROJECT ROCKIT is an interactive anti-bullying and youth leadership program that is run by young people for young people in both Primary and Secondary school settings. We are not a one-off entertainment act. We strive to achieve positive, lasting change by empowering young people to tackle the issues that are important to them.

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Here is an insightful article on bullying provided by night_axe at the lj community deathtocapslock:


It's short, and a must-read.

The following text in italics is from the article and the text not in italics are my comments:

The article discusses how bullying is actually a form of abuse and how current strategies used for reducing bullying are actually inappropriate and distressing to bullying victims/survivors.

Some interventions currently established for dealing with bullying are inappropriate as they do not recognise that bullying is abuse.It also proposes this interesting solution to bullying:

Teachers should be considered responsible for both appropriate identification of the behaviours observed (as abusive or bullying) and for intervention under the provisions of the Children and Young Person's (Care and Protection Act),NSW 1998.

It is proposed that implementation of legislative requirements under this act ,for mandatory notification by teachers of all forms of abuse should be considered as a means of protective intervention in cases of bullying. This proposal also offers protection to teachers and schools from litigation in cases of serious per abuse.

The implementation of conflict resolution strategies for example, in dealing with child abuse would never be considered appropriate. We simply would never place an abused child in the same room as their abuser and try to mediate between them. Nor would we suggest that the abuse is in some way beneficial to the victim and 'character building'.

Read more... )
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I found this really handy site that has information on how to increase your assertiveness and deal with bullies here:


The advice may not work for everyone, but it'll definitely work for a lot of case scenarios, I think. This is essential reading for anyone who wants to learn how to build up their assertiveness (ability to say what you want and need politely) and stand up to bullies.


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